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Are People with Asperger/Autism,OCD or other mental disabilities NATURALLY “Unlikeable”?

I am an Asperger sufferer(a form of autism), I was told that I am unlikable & troubled since I was 3 (by my Mom- I am sure that she had OCD & other mental illness too). I am also pretty sure that my Dad & my brothers don’t like me much too. These are my symptoms:

* Emotional issues (mood swings. I cry everyday, I often over think & over feel, I take everything offensive. For example, when my Mom/Dad calls me stupid (almost everyday), I cried about 20 minutes, and then I got angry, and when I get angry, I can do bad things. I AM TROUBLED.

* Social Awkwardness – I don’t have friends, I don’t fit in.. I tend to say the wrong thing at the wrong time & do the wrong thing at the wrong time. I was also told that my temperament/behavior is not that good sometimes. ** I could not pick up on social cues. I offend people without knowing why people got mad at me all the time. So I choose to be alone, so that I don’t have to look at people’s “rejection” faces. I don’t even know what I have done wrong & why people are hating on me.

* Anxiety- I am scared of a lot of things. I always think something bad is going to happen.

* Obsession – when I am obsessed with certain things, I will keep doing that same thing, and I am also very picky, bossy, and strict (just like my parents). I want everything to be perfect.

* I was kind of slow at school when I was a kid,  but i got better when I was in the university.

*** and my Mom (sometimes my Dad too) called me stupid & compared me to my cousin almost everyday ever since I was 3, it has been over 20 years. My self esteem is extremely low, I don’t even talk to my relatives, I only give them gifts every year at Christmas (I leave the gifts at my Dad’s house & they pick up the gifts, I don’t see them in person anymore), because I really don’t want to see people’s “rejection” faces.

So my question is do you think people with Asperger/autism, OCD & other mental disabilities are naturally “unlikable” due to their “symptoms”? I am sure that my Mom had OCD, and my Dad has Aspergers just like me. They are not really likable too. The only difference is that I did not say it out loud, but they did tell me constantly that I am unlikable & stupid, especially my Mom, she told me that almost everyday for over 20 years, she also compared me to my cousin almost everyday which I could not bear.  I did everything i could to please them (I buy them gifts, clothes, and i treated them to lunch/dinner once in awhile, and i also give them some money to spend EVERY MONTH).  I did all these things even they kept calling me stupid for every single thing I do, especially my mom,  and i cried almost every single day.  I have tried my best.   I guess my best just wasn’t good enough???

Anyway, what are your thoughts about some mental disabilities people are naturally UNLIKEABLE?